I thought it would be fun to post again and answer some questions we’ve been getting regarding our recent news of expecting our second child through our first pregnancy. Hope you enjoy!
Q: How are you feeling?
A: Today, at 13-weeks 4-days, I’m feeling great! Nearly symptom-free even and super close to the second trimester. I mean, if I hadn’t had three positive home tests–okay, maybe 5!–a positive blood and urine test at my doctor’s office, and two ultrasounds now, I probably would have just looked past all the symptoms, eventually, and still been thinking I just went through a weird phase in my health.
Q: Did you have symptoms? What were they?
A: Since I can say we found out at 8-weeks, I can backtrack at least two to three weeks before then and tell you what led up to me figuring out something was definitely going on.
Around 2 to 4 weeks: uterine cramping each and every day. I swore that when my cycle started, it was going to be the mother of all cycles–ever!–just based on how the cramping and tenderness went on and on and on. Since irregularity is more the norm for me in that department, I had no reason to suspect a delayed start would mean pregnancy.
Around 5 to 6 weeks: sudden and bone-deep waves of exhaustion hit around 2pm each afternoon, it was puzzling as my spring allergies had already started improving, but I felt like I could cry a river if I didn’t at least close my eyes for 30-60 minutes.
Around 6 to 8 weeks: food aversions, sensitive gag reflex, the sight of certain things (raw meat, the dog’s food, etc.), and being turned off by smells all hit me, especially strong around week seven. It’s like one morning the smell of a cup of coffee brewing smelled like a can of tuna fish and that ruined my love of a steam hot cup ‘o joe in the morning (thankfully, only temporarily!) Also, I was hungry but literally could think of only ONE thing that sounded wonderful: BUTTERMILK!
Turns out, our bodies do tell us what to crave when we’re experiencing nausea and upset stomach. Buttermilk is a well-known tummy soother for nausea and helps sustain the body’s needs with fat, water for hydration, salts, and has the added benefit of healthy cultures (fermentation for the win) to line your gut with good bacteria.
Around 8 to 10 weeks: LOTS of nausea, kneeling over the toilet gagging, mid-day exhaustion and going to bed around 8:30pm each night, feeling some stretching/pulling in the ligaments of the pelvic area, excess saliva, loved foods that were sour (pickles), soup (yay for creamy Thai coconut soup!), and lots of sparkling, unsweetened water, like La Croix.
And more currently, weeks 11 to 13: Great improvement in all the symptoms listed above, only mild and intermittent nausea, only a little tired, and nearly symptom-free … except for those lovely little spider (varicose) veins popping up on my legs. Those little suckers HURT!
Also something to note, I had my hair trimmed in early May and I had gotten super frustrated with this new bubble of a wave around the lower part of my head (in the back). My normally straight-ish hair was having a freak out! My stylist noticed it as well and said she’d never seen that before. Now that it’s July, and I had more length taken away two-weeks ago, there is even more … dare I say it … curl! We figured out that I was around 4 weeks along in May when we noticed the first sighting of defiant hair.
Q: Were you doing anything different, such as fertility treatments?
Q: Are you high-risk?
A: Nothing other than my age puts me in a risk category and we pray it continues that way! At least for the first two-thirds of my pregnancy, I will see a specialists due to “advanced maternal age.” There’s a great chance that at some point they’ll dismiss me if everything’s going along well.
Q: Will you find out the gender?
A: If history repeats itself as we did with our daughter, then no. We loved the surprise, but we also had around 8-weeks to go from parents-in-wanting to expectant adoptive parents and covering simple baby essentials was the most important. Gender-specific items are luxuries at that point!
The only thing I wished we would have done differently is possibly hold off on painting the nursery a neutral (green) color and waited until baby was home. I think we would have had the love, support, and help of friends and family to knock out a day of painting and I could have easily ordered a girlie crib sheet set to match, especially considering the first five or six weeks she slept in our room in a bassinet. This, too, could be done with this baby!
More Q & A later! Comment with any Q’s you may have. 🙂